What's Your Bridesmaid IQ?
Are you as tough as taffeta in the bridesmaid department, or do you need to sharpen your bride-serving skills? Test your bridesmaid IQ!start quiz
Question 2 of 16
Traditionally, who pays for the bridesmaid dress?
... Yes, it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, but that honor comes with a cost. You're responsible for the cost of the dress … and then some!
Question 3 of 16
Of the following expenses, which isn't a bridesmaid responsible for?
... You'll have to shell out for a wedding gift and travel expenses, but if the bride has asked her girls to gather in a certain space for hair and makeup prep, she should foot the bill for breakfast or lunch.
Question 4 of 16
Which of these reasons is acceptable for turning down the role of bridesmaid?
... If you sincerely want to serve as a friend's or sister's bridesmaid, you can rearrange your work schedule … and you can even stomach wearing a color that looks terrible on you. But if you just don't want to, well, that's understandable. Be sure that when you decline the role, you do it gently. Even better if you do it in person.
Question 5 of 16
All the bridesmaids agree that the dress is absolutely hideous. What can you do about it?
... In this case, it's four -- or maybe 12 -- against one. Yes, you should respect the bride's vision for her bridal party, but if no one likes the dress, suggest one with an element that's similar to the bride's original choice. Maybe it's the silhouette that's turning you off, so suggest a dress in the same color with a different cut. Just be gentle when negotiating with the bride!
Question 6 of 16
You're a bridesmaid, not a brideservant! The bride is within her rights to ask for your help with all of the following except:
... Ladies, start your calligraphy pens -- you might be addressing lots of invitations. And you might even have to mingle with the bride's great-aunt at her shower to make sure she feels included. But under no circumstances should you have to tell the groom that the wedding's off.
Question 7 of 16
According to most etiquette guides, you should purchase gifts for which wedding events?
... Santa Claus, is that you? You might start feeling like the man in red because you'll be buying a lot of gifts! Bridesmaids are generally expected to bring gifts to any showers, and if there's a lingerie party in conjunction with the bachelorette party, you'll want to stock up on lacy/racy things for the bride. And, you'll give a gift for the main event, too -- the actual wedding.
Question 8 of 16
The bride has cold feet! What's your best bridesmaid move?
... Cold feet can be legitimate indicators that a bride shouldn't go through with the wedding. Or, they might just be ordinary nerves. Never try to talk the bride out of or into the wedding. Instead, find out what she needs to work through those feelings. Maybe it's a quiet 15 minutes with the groom, or maybe even just a glass of champagne!
Question 9 of 16
When other bridesmaids misbehave, you should:
... It's not your job to hire and fire bridesmaids, and it's passive-aggressive to overlook bad behavior. Do some recon and find out what's got the bridesmaids upset. Maybe their duties are taking up too much time, or they might have money woes that are preventing them from participating in wedding activities. Be a peacemaker, not a troublemaker!
Question 10 of 16
You're a childhood friend of the bride's; the other bridesmaids are college sorority sisters. What's your best wedding game plan?
... The bride doesn't just want her girls to get along -- she wants you all to get in on the action and have some fun! Don't wait for the other bridesmaids to reach out to you. Show a little initiative by setting up some fun time with them. Trust us, it'll make the wedding a lot more fun if you befriend these girls and get involved.
Question 11 of 16
Reception time! A good bridesmaid can be found:
... Yes, you're allowed to eat and drink at the reception. But a good bridesmaid will also shake her stuff on the dance floor (it encourages other guests to get out there) and work the room to greet guests.
Question 12 of 16
Which of these wedding shower tasks has "bridesmaid" written all over it?
... Make yourself useful at bridal showers by making a list of who gave what gift -- the bride needs this guide when it's thank-you note time. Other great bridesmaid tasks? Collecting ribbons for a ribbon bouquet, greeting guests at the door and refilling beverages for guests.
Question 13 of 16
The bride is being a total bridezilla. What should you do?
... Bridesmaiding is an honorary and voluntary position. Sure, it can be rough at times, but you shouldn't have to endure nonstop nasty behavior from the bride. Remember, she's your friend, so sit her down and try to work through the madness!
Question 14 of 16
So, you got tasked with manning the guest book. You were certain you'd be asked to be a bridesmaid. You should:
... You didn't make the final cut, but the bride still cherishes your friendship and wants you involved with the wedding. Don't ask for a rhyme and reason, and definitely don't negotiate with the bridal party! Just show up and man that guestbook like nobody's business!
Question 15 of 16
There's a guy in the bridal party! Whether the bride's calling him an honor attendant, bridesboy or bridesman, he's part of your crew. How should you involve him?
... If he's standing up at the altar with the bride, he's obviously got a meaningful relationship with her. Find out how involved he wants to be in your bridal activities, and ask the bride if he should be included in events like dress fittings and bachelorette parties.
Question 16 of 16
When the maid of honor is MIA or a total dud, what should you do?
... Even if the maid of honor was MIA for dress shopping and has yet to express an opinion about the bachelorette party locale, she's still the team leader. Tell her you'd like to lend a hand, and she'll probably be grateful for your help. But don’t take over her position and expect gratitude in return.