Family Life

The Importance of Wise Counsel

posted: 09/30/11
by: Michelle Duggar


I think many of us throughout our lives have a need to seek counsel; it's just part of life. At times you're going to come up against a hard situation, tough decisions, and you may need counsel, and that's just the way it is.

But those who are seeking and learning and growing as they're going along, many times they'll be getting counsel and they don't even realize they're getting it. It could be listening to a great radio message while driving to the grocery store.

Often I tell my kids, "Listen, while you're riding in the car, if you're headed to work or going on an errand, fill your mind with good preaching messages." You can find counsel in so many ways - going to church, watching movies, reading books.

Scripture says that there's wisdom in many counselors, and whoever and whatever we have around us -- whether it be good books, good messages that we're listening to, good radio, wholesome good stuff -- those are wise counselors that you're surrounding yourself with. And they can help you make better decisions in your relationships with people. A lot of people don't really share their thoughts about things. But you can't keep stuff bottled up and not get a gut check on things.

There are great preachers out there who talk about all kinds of different topics, and if you're struggling in a certain area, sometimes wise counsel is just a phone call away. It's not a matter of if we're going to come up against a crisis in life -- we're human, we're going to have moments when we struggle and we need some insight from the outside.

And so I remind my kids: "You know, you're never going to regret spending time listening and reading and gaining good, wise counsel wherever you turn." We all have the same amount of time in a day, and I really feel like if we're applying ourselves to knowledge and to learning as much as we can as we're going along we can gain some wisdom.

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