Why Chores Can Be Good for Your Sex Life

posted: 11/04/15
by: Mara Betsch
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When choosing a mate, most people aspire to find someone smart, kind, funny, and, well, attractive. But you may want to add willingness to do chores to that list.

Scientists have known for awhile that the sharing of household duties is essential to a happy marriage. In fact, splitting up chores was the third most important issue associated with a successful marriage, falling behind only faithfulness and good sex, according to a 2007 Pew Research Poll. Women still do the majority of household tasks -- about two-thirds to their partners' one-third-- according to recent research, and though that number isn't close to equal, it has improved in recent years. Same-sex couples seem to be much better at splitting up chores, according to a 2015 survey.

But contributing to domestic duties may have an added perk, claim researchers from the University of Alberta. Their latest study found that heterosexual couples enjoyed a more active and satisfying sex life when men thought they were doing their fair share of housework. The key word being "thought."

The study looked at both a male partner's perception of how much he contributed to chores and how much help he actually provided. It turns out that even though the men's actual contribution to chores didn't correlate with a better sex life, when a man thought the division of labor was equal, the couple reported a steamier love life. This also coincides with a recent study that showed that couples who split child care duties reported higher relationship (and sexual) satisfaction.

But in order to reap the benefits, be sure to talk with partner about how much you expect him to help out around the house.

"In any relationship, the amount of housework is going to mean something different based on the couple's context, based on their own expectations for what each partner should be doing, and their comparison levels of what happens with other couples they know," Dr. Matt Johnson, the lead researcher, said in a press release.