Transgender Woman’s Sweet Story of Coming Out (Repeatedly) to Her Mother with Dementia

posted: 10/29/15
by: TLCme
picture of trans woman tina healy with family

Tina Healy came out to her friends and family as a transgender woman three years ago. The process went smoother than expected, and these days, she works as an advocate for Gender Diversity Australia, and helps businesses learn about gender diversity.

Healy's elderly mother took her transition in stride. "When I eventually came out to mum," she said in an interview with Australia's Broadcasting Company, "She said 'what do you know, I've got a beautiful new daughter.' I cried on her shoulder."

But in the past year, Healy's mother has become afflicted with dementia. So the coming out process has had to be repeated. A lot. Not just a couple of times, but maybe hundreds. And every single time, she says, her mother has been equally gracious, kind, and supportive.

"Every time I tell her again, she gives me just the same beautiful reaction that she did word for word ever time," says Healy. 'I'm kind of the luckiest one of all because I get to come out to mum a hundred times a year and every time she's beautiful."

Healy and her family are trailblazers and role models in a number of ways: Her daughter was so supportive that she wrote a book about her mom's coming out experience so that she could help teach kids about what being transgender is all about.

As for how her transition has made Healy feel: "My life is so different. I mean, I can be myself. I'm not as anxious anymore. I don't worry as much. I'm much more peaceful and calm. I'm happy."