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Read This Mom’s Post About the Truth of How Bullying Really Affects Kids

posted: 02/12/18
by: Kristine Boyd

We know bullying is very prevalent at school, but we like to believe that it will never happen to our kids. We look at our friend's children walking into school and also believe that it would never happen to them. Children have a carefree nature that leads us to believe that they are always happy (despite the occasional temper tantrum). However, one mom learned the truth behind what was happening to her daughter at school and shared her story in a viral and emotional Instagram post.

Stevie Niki, mother of 4 and lifestyle blogger by the name of My Tribe of Six, noticed her daughter was changing. She noticed that something was going on with her daughter that only she could see. "Most people don't see what I see, they see a loud kid, a silly kid, a happy kid, a kid that won't sit still and a sometimes-defiant kid. A child with a mind that wanders, a spirit that roams free and a heart that has a wild spark. Some may even see a "naughty" kid," she wrote. But Stevie couldn't bear to see her once happy daughter, with a constant frown on her face.

I want to pretend like today was a good day, i want to say something positive and inspiring.. but i cant, not today. I sat with my daughter after school and we both cried. My heart aches for all her pain and sadness. Most people dont see what i see, they see a loud kid, a silly kid, a happy kid, a kid that wont sit still and a sometimes defiant kid. A child with a mind that wanders, a spirit that roams free and a heart that has a wild spark. Some may even see a "naughty" kid. The truth is, all she is, is a kid (my kid) just as special as yours or anyone elses. And the kid i see at home is a kid that hurts, shes changed alot in the last few months and challenged me even more. her spark has dulled and glow has gotten darker. We have high highs and low lows. I asked her today where she has gone? And we cried. I want my happy girl back, the one who lights up the room and radiates vibes i wish i could create. My nice girl who loves her mama and her siblings, my kind girl. Today she broke down because of the relentless bullying she experienced the last 6 months after we moved and changed schools. Questioned me as to why she doesnt have friends and that shes not good enough. Today she had a good day at school, she played with a kid and had fun. But this is what its like, it doesnt matter if its a good day when the pains still there and the wounds are still raw. The damage has been done and its not yet repaired - will it ever? I hope so. Maybe we should have never sold the home we brought them home from the hospital to and changed their schools from their first. Maybe we shouldn't have relocated. She doesnt fit into a box and i dont want her to either... Raising kids was never going to be easy, but it shouldnt be this kind of hard. I dont know what to do. I dont know what the answer is. It's day one back and it was a good but im already questioning the schooling system and her place in it. This year i will not allow the system or any one else's child to defeat her like they did last year. So talk to your kids, teach them kindness and inclusiveness - because no mum and no child should have to sit through this and feel what we feel.

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Stevie asked her what was wrong and found out her daughters heart-breaking reality. She has been being bullied for the last 6 months since they moved. She told her mom that the reason she didn't have friends because she "wasn't good enough." Hearing these words come out of her young daughter's mouth was like immensely painful for Stevie. As a mother, you want to protect your kids from harm and heartache. This was something out of her control that she never knew was happening.

Like any human would, she started to blame herself. Stevie regretted moving and switching her kid's schools. She humbly admits that she doesn't know what the answer is to this problem. She doesn't have any magic answer to give parents who are going through the same thing. Her daughter will have good days but she knows that the damage has been done and its already taken its toll. The only thing she wants parents to hear is that you need to, "talk to your kids, teach them kindness and inclusiveness - because no mum and no child should have to sit through this and feel what we feel."

Before School VS After School. Oh my how the tables have turned. Note how the girls looked all ready for their first day back at school, and then flick through to what they looked like after getting off the bus in the afternoon - hilarious. Luckily, I've partnered with Harvey Norman PhotoCentre, who are offering EVERYONE a FREE 6x4 print, in the cutest back to school themed keep sake. Plus a FREE enlarged 8x10 print too. Simply take your photo in to your local Harvey Norman PhotoCentre before 4th March to get your back to school keep sakes free - the kids will love it just us much as we do. If you mention this post, Harvey Norman will also give you 20% off a photo frame of your choice, to frame it. #freephoto #backtoschool #workingwithharveynorman @harveynormanau sponsored post

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Even though we may not see it happening, bullying is a very real thing. While we want to believe it will never happen to our kids, we need to keep that open relationship to discuss any problems they may be having at school. Raising children is hard, and no one is perfect at it. But don't let behavior changes go unnoticed and keep that conversation going so your children can always feel comfortable talking to you about what is going on through the bad and the good.