Nicole Kidman Opens Up About the ‘Massive Grief’ After Miscarriages While Married to Tom Cruise

posted: 06/07/18
by: Amanda Mushro

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Nicole Kidman has the kind of star power that makes her fans want to know what she is doing, what she is wearing, and when they can see her again on the big or small screen. However, it's a recent interview where Nicole gets very real about pregnancy loss and grief that so many women are finding the starlet more relatable than ever.

The 50-year-old actress and mother of four shared her struggles to conceive as well as pregnancy loss while she was married to Tom Cruise in the 90s. Even though years have passed since those struggles, she said the pain still feels very real. In the interview she opens up about having an ectopic pregnancy, which is a condition where the embryo begins developing in the fallopian tube instead of the womb. This led to Nicole having a miscarriage when she was 23 weeks pregnant.

"There's a huge, aching yearning,' she told Tatler. "And the loss! The loss of a miscarriage is not talked about enough. That's a massive grief to women."

Nicole and Tom, who were married in 1990, went on to adopt two children, Bella, 25 and Connor, 22. Right before her split with Tom in 2001, she suffered another miscarriage.

After two miscarriages and a divorce, Nicole did find love again and the chance to be a mom two more times. She shares two daughters with husband Keith Urban, whom she married in June 2006. She gave birth to Sunday Rose in 2008, and welcomed Faith Margaret via surrogate in 2010.

Nicole also talks about the other side of the 'massive grief' --when she finally became a parent. "There's an enormous amount of pain and an enormous amount of joy on the other side of it," Kidman said. However, "the flipside of going through so much yearning and pain to get there is the feeling of 'Ahhhh!' when you have the child."

It's estimated that one in five women will experience a miscarriage in their lifetime. Finally, many women are opening up about the loss and grief felt from a miscarriage. So we love that a celebrity like Nicole is using her platform to share that sometimes your road to motherhood is not the one you planned but is amazing when you get there.