Mom Speaks Her Truth About Why She Quit PTA

posted: 08/06/18
by: Kristine Boyd

"I'm only sitting there because of the other moms in the room."

Author, mother, and inspiration, Rachel Hollins, recently spoke at a book tour event and it had people putting their hands in the air screaming, "YES!" The topics she touched on were so relatable and resonated with so many women that it was almost like she was reading the minds of her listeners. Rachel's speech touched on a lot of the topics she talks about in her book, Girl, Wash Your Face, a book to help you stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be.


Rachel's speech was all about how women are taught from a very young age that their worth comes from other people. We are taught that to be a, "good woman" we have to be a good wife, a good daughter, a good mother, a good sister etc. And when women don't fit into one of these categories, they start to feel insecure in their womanhood and feel inferior to others.

"It is super messed up because then your definition, your worth, lies in someone else's opinion of you," Rachel explains.

A specific topic she touched on that had women nodding their heads in agreement was when she brought up the Parent Teacher Association. The PTA is a great way to provide services to the school and volunteer your time to the education system. However, it is not for every mom! After trying her best to keep up with all the tasks that come with this responsibility, Rachel realized she had to make a change for her sanity.

Before explaining why she is no longer part of the PTA Rachel stated, "If you volunteer at your kid's school, you are a hero!" She admits when she had her first son, she wanted to do the school gig perfectly. But being a working mom while also volunteering, proved to be more of a strain than she realized. "I would kill myself to try and find time," she explained. Every moment she spent at PTA meetings, she was bitter thinking about the work she was getting behind on and resenting herself for doing something she wasn't passionate about.

If you decide on a goal--for example, "I'm going to write a novel" or "I'm going to run a 10K"--your subconscious will formulate the likelihood of that happening based on past experiences. So when it's day four and you're feeling tired and you don't want to head out for a run, you will revert to the highest level of mental training. ????????? ????????? What happened the last time you found yourself here? Did you push through and form a habit and get it done? Or did you make an excuse? Did you put it off until later?????????? ????????? Whatever standard you've set for yourself is where you'll end up . . . unless you fight through your instinct and change your pattern. ??An excerpt from Girl, Wash Your Face available everywhere books are sold and narrated on @audible_com by ME if you want 4+ hours of me preach/coaching you on everything from business to intimacy ?

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Rachel realized that neither her or her child truly cared about this. "Jackson doesn't care. Jackson is eating clay," she laughed. "The truth is that I'm only sitting there because of the other moms in the room." In that moment she decided to stop doing things that weren't serving her and her family. Rachel says that volunteering for her kid's school is not a value of hers, but if it is your value, own it! We all have different priorities and things that bring us joy. We can only do so many things in our day, and we might as well make them something that hold value to us.

If you know what truly matters to you, you can let all the unnecessary things go. Even if this means risking other people's opinions, it's worth it for your happiness!