Mom Pens Awesome Letter to Salesperson Who Told Her Daughter She Needed Spanx

posted: 01/27/16
by: Mara Betsch

Teenage girls don't have it easy -- between battling mean girls and getting used to a curvier body (and new hormones), it's hard to maintain a positive body image. So when Kansas mom Megan Naramore Harris witnessed her daughter Lexi being body-shamed while shopping for a formal dress, she felt the need to speak out.

Here's what happened: While shopping for a gown for an upcoming dance, Megan suggested Lexi try on a dress that wasn't her style. Lexi obliged, and when she came out, a sales associate made a comment about her needing Spanx. Understandably, Megan stood up for her daughter, only to have the employee argue with her about her daughter's choice of shapewear. Infuriating, right?

She posted the lovely picture of Lexi to Facebook, including a powerful letter to the employee.

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Dear sales lady at Dillard's Towne East Mall,
This is my teenage daughter who wanted to try on dresses for an upcoming formal. I found this dress and asked her to try it on. She told me this was not her style, but tried it on for me. I told her how grown up it made her look and she smiled, and told me this made her look too old but still, she let me take a picture. Right after that, you entered and told my daughter she needed to wear SPANX if she wanted to wear this dress. I told my daughter to go change. I told you that she was just fine without SPANX. You continued to argue with me. We left soon after. I wish I had told you how many girls suffer from poor self image and telling them they need something to make them perfect can be very damaging. Girls of all ages, shapes and sizes are perfect because that is how God made them. If they feel good in a dress, that is all that should matter. My daughter is tall, she swims, runs, dances and does yoga. She's fit. She's beautiful. She did not need you telling her that she is not perfect. I hope this is shared and gets back to you so that you should not say something like that to a girl ever again. You never know what negative or positive thoughts they are thinking about themselves.
Sincerely, Mother of a beautiful girl

Though Megan says that she doesn't want the employee to lose her job, she hopes to educate others on how damaging comments like this can be to a young, impressionable girl. We think her words -- and Lexie -- are beautiful!