Kate Hudson Hits on Some Tough Issues in Her Essay “Sometimes I Feel Like a Bad Mom”

posted: 04/08/16
by: Mara Betsch

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It's hard to feel bad for celebrity moms. For one, they're beautiful, with personal chefs and trainers to keep them in tip-top shape (and let's not even get into how quickly they drop their baby weight). And two, they have the resources to hire all sorts of nannies, babysitters, and caregivers that a regular mom can only dream about.

However, they do sacrifice a lot to maintain their work schedule while also trying to be a good parent. And if there's one group of people we empathize with at TLCme, it's working moms. No matter what your salary is, there are trade-offs you make to ensure that you provide for your children, both financially and emotionally.

So when Kate Hudson was picked to write an essay for this month's In Style magazine, we were curious what she'd write about -- her athleisure business, her acting career, or even how she stays so fit -- but, instead, she chose to write about her children. She titled her moving, funny essay "Sometimes I Feel Like a Bad Mom," and we promise that you will immediately relate to her honesty. Read a few excerpts below:

"Some days I feel like I should win best mom of the day award, and some days I find myself doing strange things that don't have any real purpose, in faraway corners in my house, and I realize I am literally and deliberately hiding from my children."

"...Even though every primal ounce of the nurturing, domestic woman in me gets pulled, I'm a hunter as well. And I love to hunt! And as a woman I feel that somehow we are supposed to feel apologetic about wanting both. But I don't want to apologize for that anymore. Being both already comes at an emotional cost, without adding society's antiquated idea of the traditional roles of man and woman in the home."

"Yes, I help my kids with their homework. But I also get bored doing it. I will sit and listen to my children pontificate and discuss their ideas till the day is long because it warms my heart, but I really don't want to do math! I'm gonna say it: I'd prefer to watch 'The Bachelor' rather than do fractions and divisions."

"Even as I write this, I am traveling for a week away from my children to promote my book, Pretty Happy, and I'm so happy to have some time to myself and excited to have this experience."

"There's this tight, pulling sensation that never goes away that it comes at the cost of missing a week of my children's lives, and it aches."

"[But] I wouldn't be the best mom I could be if I didn't follow my creative endeavors. I would feel an emptiness that would be felt in our home. So a stay-at-home mom will never be my life and that will never be my kids' experience of me."