I’m Not a Pinterest Mom…And I’m Ok With That

posted: 09/22/16
by: Danni Starr

Mommy guilt is real. I worry all the time. I question all the time. Am I doing this right? Am I doing this wrong? Will they grow up to be good people? I'm not sure why there is this constant pressure to be the perfect parent, but there is. Even when no one is around I feel judgment lurking closely by. Here's the truth, I am NOT a Pinterest mom.

I'm not knocking moms who wake up two hours early to bake muffins for their kid's entire class, that's awesome, I can't do it though. Don't get me wrong, I spend hours pinning things I would like to do for my kids, things I would like to make for them, but don't you dare ask me how much of those I have actually done.

This past week my oldest went to school in an outfit that was just a little bit too small because we were running late and there were only two options. Either be late, or let her be a little snug for the day. She went to school on time in a very snug outfit. I'm blaming this one on a random growth spurt because seriously she should have fit the outfit.

I once forgot it was costume day so when my baby girl burst into tears because she was the only one not dressed like she stepped right out of a Disney movie, I cried too. How could I have forgotten? I told her we could go home and change but she would miss part of the school day, she chose to go to school. I was so proud of her, but for days I felt terrible.

Rarely do they match, sometimes they stay up way past their bedtime and even though I swore they would never eat even a bite of fast food, they have...and it's ok.

I'm not a perfect parent, but I'm not a perfect person either and in the person department I always seem to cut myself some slack. I need to also cut myself some slack when it comes to parenting.

Even when I forget it's show-and-tell day, and I have done that a time or two, my girls love me just the same.

They think I'm amazing and they tell me all the time. I think as parents we need to start seeing ourselves the way our kids see us. We've got to stop being such harsh critics of ourselves. I'm doing it right, and so are you. If your kids are happy, healthy and every now and then scream laugh, trust me, you are doing it right.

It doesn't matter what you forgot, because inevitably you will forget something. It doesn't matter that they don't always match. It doesn't matter that they stayed up a little too late or had ice cream for breakfast. As parents we want what's best for our children and sometimes, that's ice cream for breakfast.

Parenting is rewarding, but it's not for the faint of heart. It would be a lot easier if we decided to stand together and agree that we all just doing our best. So if you see my kid wearing flip flops in the rain on the first day of school, and yes that happened, don't judge me. I won't judge you either because I finally get it, we are all doing the best we can. No judgment needed. Now if you will excuse me, I need to go pin some gourmet dinner ideas despite the fact that I know we will probably be ordering takeout.