Help Your Kids Stand Up to Peer Pressure with The Smart, Simple “X Plan”

posted: 03/01/17
by: Blythe Copeland
X Plan Peer Pressure
Burt Fulks

Helping your kids navigate peer pressure as teenagers is a tricky task: Telling them to "just say no" or to leave situations where they feel uncomfortable is a good start, but giving them the words or tools to do it can make them much more successful at standing their ground. Burt Fulks, a youth minister and father of three, came up with a simple plan for his youngest son, Danny, to follow when he feels stuck in a position they don't like: Danny texts a single "X" to mom, dad, or an older sibling, who then calls him immediately and fakes a family emergency that requires an immediate pickup. On his blog, Fulks writes, "In short, Danny knows he has a way out; at the same time, there's no pressure on him to open himself to any social ridicule. He has the freedom to protect himself while continuing to grow and learn to navigate his world."

However, Fulks writes, for the plan to work, parents have to follow through on the second part: Allowing your child to tell you whatever he or she wants about what they were experiencing, even if that means nothing at all. "The X-plan come with the agreement that we will pass no judgements and ask no questions (even if he is 10 miles away from where he's supposed to be). This can be a hard thing for some parents...but it will go a long way in building trust between you and your kid," he writes.

Via Good Housekeeping