Feeling Bad Because Your Kids are Acting Up? Let Kristen Bell Make You Feel Better

posted: 01/24/17
by: Amanda Mushro

It's a parenting moment we can all relate to as one of our least favorites. Our well behaved child decides that the perfect time to lose their minds and start a tantrum is when are in public. It could be in a busy restaurant or the checkout at the grocery store, you never know when the naughty behavior is coming. But our kids public meltdowns leave us feeling embarrassed and at that moment, the world's worst mother. But rather than feel the weight of mom guilt or grab the candy bar by the register and start eating it yourself, this time you'll want to take advice from a celebrity. But since we love Kristen Bell so much and these public meltdowns leave us feeling so crappy, we are listening.

In a recent interview with Babble, Bell was asked what was the most embarrassing thing her daughters Lincoln, 3, and Delta Bell, 2, have ever done in public. Instead of rattling off relatable moments or delivering a big laugh, she explained that she never gets particularly embarrassed when her kids misbehave in public.

She says that parents have gone too far in basing our own self-worth on the behavior of our children. So when our kids are acting like kids, we don't need to bog ourselves down with feeling bad about our parenting. When a child acts up, she believes the child should claim the embarrassment and not the parent.

Bell says ""If my child is acting a fool in the grocery store, the embarrassment is on her. In truth, that shouldn't make me feel a certain way."

Easier said than done, right? It can be hard to stay calm when we feel the eyes of strangers judging us or we catch a few glances and nasty looks because our kids aren't behaving well. Bell reminds us that kids will be kids, and as parents, we should focus more on how we react to the behavior so that kids understand what is acceptable and what is not, rather than feeling shameful that our kids are acting out.

"She's going to act the way a child acts," adds Bell, "and I'm not going to let that reflect on me or bring me down. That shouldn't make me feel ashamed or embarrassed in any way. Only you can make you feel a certain way."

So just because your kid is having a bad day or a very public bad moment doesn't make you a bad mom. Instead, take a few deep breathes, handle the situation, and chalk this day up as a parenting win for you.