Divorced Parents Put Their Differences Aside for a Sweet Annual Family Photo

posted: 03/29/17
by: Blythe Copeland

Scheduling, planning, and organizing a family photo can end up being one of your most stressful annual tasks, and that's even before you attempt to get everyone to smile and look in the same direction at the same time. But for Victoria Baldwin, a yearly family portrait is a must -- especially in the years since she and her husband, Adam, divorced.

The Love What Matters Facebook page posted Victoria's story, where she includes four images of herself and Adam -- one during her pregnancy and three with their son -- and explains why she makes the family photo a priority.

"Adam and I are not perfect co-parents, but we made a deal when we got divorced, to put our son first and to value the richness that we each bring to his life, for different reasons. So yes, we still have a family portrait taken, and I still pay good money to have the images printed, framed, and placed in our son's bedroom; he may not grow up with parents who live in the same house...but he will grow up to see respect, kindness, empathy, compassion, perseverance, flexibility, and even sacrifice being modeled by both of his parents and he will know it is possible to fall out of love but never fall apart."

And as for the rest of the year -- when it's not family picture day -- they try just as hard to model a healthy relationship for their son. "We are forever connected because of our beautiful, smart, kind, compassionate, funny son," she writes. "We remember that neither of our roles as parents take precedence over the other -- neither one of us are any more important to the life of our son. We BOTH need to be there, we BOTH deserve quality time and quality memories with him."