Creative Ways to Get Your Kids to Talk About Their Day

posted: 09/16/16
by: Amanda Mushro
Father with his little boy and girl at home
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Father with his little boy and girl at home

As soon as my kids get home from school, I immediately bombard them with all the usual mom-questions: How was your day? What did you do? Who did you sit by at lunch? However, every single day, the responses are the same: Good. Nothing. I don't know. While I'm dying to know more about my kids' day at school, they aren't always very forthcoming with details. So that means I need to get a little creative to get them talking. Here's five ways you can encourage your kids to talk about their day.

Skip the Usual Questions- Rather than rattling off a simple "How was your day?" try questions your kids won't expect, like "What made you laugh today?" "Who had the best snack in their lunchbox?" "What color shoes did your teacher wear?" And the one that always gets my son talking, "Did anyone get in trouble today?"

Make It Count- Rather than shooting off a bunch of questions while doing the dishes or even when you're driving them home from school, wait until everyone is home. This way you can give your kids a snack, sit down at the kitchen table, and have a real conversation. When you ask the same questions and you're distracted, your kids might sense this and not be willing to share. Also, they may need a few minutes to decompress before they share all the details from their day. Giving them a small break and a snack may be just what they need to get into sharing mode.

Use Their Schoolwork- When they pull out the papers from their backpack, use their school work and art work as a conversation starter. Now you can ask questions about the lessons or the units they're working on, and they can explain how they completed the different assignments.

Remember Their Schedule- If you know what days your kids have special classes like art, music, or P.E., you can ask what happened in those classes. Since younger kids tend to really enjoy those special classes, you'll probably get a lively discussion on those days.

Peak and the Pit- During dinner, have each family member share with was the best part of their day--their peak-- and what was the worst part of their day--their pit. Not only are you modeling how to share details of your day, but your kids will love hearing your peak and pit as much as you love hearing theirs.