Being a Maid of Honor: 6 Tips to Keep the Bride Smiling

posted: 05/31/17
by: Katie Morton
Beautiful young bride with her bridesmaids outside in nature

You're thrilled and honored to be the Maid of Honor! You'll be by the bride's side for all the events leading up to the wedding and on that special day. Here are our pro tips to help you keep the bride smiling throughout it all.

1. Plan the Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Events

One of the key roles of the Maid of Honor is to organize and plan a lovely bridal shower and a killer bachelorette party. As soon as the bride taps you to be her Maid of Honor, it's time to try and synch up calendars for both the shower and the bachelorette party. Ask the bride for a guest list so you can start putting together potential dates, locations, venues, and travel plans.

Before you start planning any soiree, ask the bride what type of event she envisions. While you might imagine a big night out with cocktails and limos, she may want a weekend at her parents' lakeside cabin. By checking in with her, you'll be on the same page, and keep the focus on what makes her happy.

2. Organize a Wedding Day Survival Kit

While we all hope that the wedding will go off without a hitch, the reality is that unforeseen circumstances may arise. You'll win the Save the Day award if you have an emergency kit ready to go on the wedding day. The bride and the bridesmaids may need Motrin, Band-Aids, feminine products, hair ties, safety pins, mints, nail files...just use your imagination.

For a complete, Girl Scout worthy list of emergency essentials to consider, check out The Knot's Day-of Emergency Kit. Use their list to compile your own wedding day survival supplies.

3. Prepare and Deliver an Epic Toast

At many weddings, the Maid of Honor will be asked to give a toast along with the Best Man. Great speeches take time to prep and practice. Start journaling ideas a few weeks before the wedding, so you're not scrambling to write something the night before.

Remember: Practice makes perfect, so quash your nerves by rehearsing. Some speech pros recommend recording your speech to listen to your tone, speed, and cadence. Another tip: Keep the toast clean, remember grandparents may be in attendance, and they probably don't want to hear about that R-rated trip to Cabo (save that reminiscing for the bachelorette evening)!

4. Eat and Be Merry

Nothing will ruin a magical day quite like the bride fainting from low-blood sugar. Wedding days are unimaginably hectic. With all the photos, guests, dancing, and celebration, many brides forget to eat during their wedding receptions. Prepare for this inevitability by making sure the bride has breakfast and snacks before she walks down the aisle.

If you can swing it, arrange with the wedding planner or catering crew to have appetizers and dinner placed in the wedding suite for when the newlyweds call it a night. They may be starved and it will be a lovely surprise for them! Throw some rose petals on the bed while you're in there for extra ambience.

5. Help with the Gown and Veil During Ladies' Room Breaks

Layers and layers of tulle take some effort to manage during restroom breaks. Plan to help the bride with her gown and veil when she visits the ladies' room. She may need help with a corset or with zipping back up.

Also be ready to assist with a mid-reception hair and make-up touch-up. Gather what the bride will need to refresh and store that in the ladies' room for her.

6. Make the Honeymoon Return Special

After the honeymoon, the bride and groom would love to come home to a few special treats. You don't have to fully stock the newlyweds' fridge, but if you splurge and purchase a few of the bride's favorite treats to return to, she'll be surprised and touched by the gesture.

If you're feeling flush, a bottle of chilled champagne is always appreciated. Another sweet touch is to bring over the couple's gifts and any remaining wedding decor. They will love coming home to special reminders of their big day.

Being asked to be a Maid of Honor is a special privilege. Enjoy the planning and have fun. This is a once in a lifetime moment for you and the bride to share together, so savor the special memories you're making.

Here is a good example of what not to do as MOH...remember it's the bride's day and your there to make her smile!


Maid Of Honor Veto

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When maid of honor Anita bosses around bride Esther, it's unclear who's in charge. That's when Lori steps in to remind the bride that a gown veto could affect her wedding memories forever.